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Sunday resets

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I can't believe the "ber" months are upon us - where has the time gone? I know everyone says that, but seriously - where did 2021 go? It was just March a second ago: I was wringing my hands about being in between jobs, revelrous 8-people restaurant dinners were still a thing, and, just for a second there, it felt like we were out of the woods. 

Wew. I feel like I've lived three lives in this year alone.

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I’ve been making a conscious effort to remind myself to “step back” lately. With work commitments ballooning, I sometimes find that I get so deep into this blind autopilot that everything else sort of fades away.

I love weekends for this reason. On Sundays, I let myself come apart, dig into messy feelings, uncomfortable thoughts, dream, and just… unravel a little. After being so tightly wound during the workweek—poised for productivity, you know the drill—I like that I can just be on weekends. 

Something that I’ve been trying to do every Sunday is what I call my “weekly reset”. I get down and dirty on admin things like tracking my expenses and planning out my week, etc. Because I don't like it when my week skews too heavily towards work (although I'll admit that's nearly always inevitable), I try to carve out time for my own personal goals. I've found that this helps me make time for little "me-things" that I'd otherwise overlook in the humdrum of the week. It also makes me feel so good to check off things that are just for me. Like writing, for instance. I forget how much I enjoy it outside of work.

Because my to-do list can sometimes get dangerously overstuffed with random, scattered priorities (at the peak of the pandemic plant fever, for one, I considered opening an online plant store), I make an effort to spring clean my list on Sundays to see if these are actually things I see myself committing to or if they're just "nice-to-dos". So yes, this routine might sound slightly pedantic, but it actually gives me a lot of clarity, direction and some semblance of control as I start the new week.

My favourite nook for writing, planning, thinking, daydreaming

Another thing I strive to do is start my week on a somewhat clean emotional slate. I've long accepted the fact that I'm an exceptionally emotional human, so if I sense that there’s a swirl of hard-to-name feelings just sloshing around in my emotional dustbag, I try to sit with myself and see what comes up. I've found these emotional check-ins to be very helpful.

I'm surprised this Sunday ritual has stuck around for as long as it has. I don’t typically like things in my life to be rigid, but I find that if you’re trying to make a habit stick, it helps to force it a little bit at first. In my case, pegging it to a day during the week, and doing it repeatedly (even when it's the last thing I want to do) has helped.


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Three things that really resonated with me this week: 

1. Groundedness does not eliminate passion 

"Groundedness does not eliminate passion, productivity, or all forms of striving and ambition. Instead, it is about ditching an omnipresent and frantic anxiety to begin living in alignment with your innermost values, pursuing your interests, and expressing your authentic self in the here and now. When you are grounded there is no need to look up or down. You are where you are, and you hold true strength and power from that position. Your success, and the way in which you pursue it, becomes more enduring and robust. You gain the confidence to opt out of the consumer-driven rat-race that leaves you feeling like you are never enough.” 

— Brad Stulberg in The Practice of Groundedness

2. "The ultimate touchstone (of friendship) is witness"

    "The ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the other nor of the self, the ultimate touchstone is witness, the privilege of having been seen by someone and the equal privilege of being granted the sight of the essence of another, to have walked with them and to have believed in them, and sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span, on a journey impossible to accomplish alone."

    — Poet David Whyte

    3. What’s on my mind: Doing less isn’t about doing less at all. 

    Doing less isn’t actually about doing less at all - I think it’s more about unlearning all the things you think you need to do or have, playing into your strengths (whether that’s at work or at life) valuing rest above all.

    Till next time!

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