20 things I'm taking with me into 2020!
It’s the morning (ish) of New Year’s Day, and apart from a slight hangover from one too many wine glasses from the night before, I’m actually feeling great. I can't believe it's 2020! A whole. new. decade. Insane.
Given that I’ve lived through being 17 to 27 in the 2010s (that’s a pretty big leap), I’d say it’s been a pretty formative one. Just because I'm 100% the sort to make an occasion out of anything, I spent a while thinking about my significant takeaways from the past decade. Thought I'd share them:
1. Just when you think you've got it all figured out... life proves that personal growth isn't always linear, and that it moves in squiggly, unpredictable and complicated ways sometimes.
2. Treat your body, skin, and mind well. Sounds simple right? Took me a whole decade to get this right. I've quit smoking, am religious about my yoga practice, eat a lot better, rarely go a night without my skincare routine (ily, Sunday Riley), and am more mindful about what I consume nutritionally, mentally, spiritually. Unrecognisable, ten years ago.
3. Nourish your attention as you would your nutrition/diet. Consume content that nourishes your mind, surround yourself with people who nourish your soul — cut out the rest.
4. Speaking of people who nourish the soul... I'm incredibly thankful for my small but intimate circle of incredible people I've got around me. I've learnt that life doesn't owe it to anyone to be easy, but having people around you who love you and support you unconditionally makes those tough days a little less rough.
5. Always check in with yourself; make time for self-care. (That said, I do recognise that being able to make self-care a priority is a privilege.)
6. Be savvy with your ca$hflow - even if it means saying no to that mid-week happy hour. I've come to terms that I'm terrible with money. It only took me moving out, living on my own and having to deal with greater overheads for the first time for me to realise that hey, I really need to think about where my money is going.
7. Stop always trying to be so damn filtered. I'm the ultimate people-pleaser, so it's taken a hot minute for me to be firm in my convictions/speak my mind.
8. Stay curious and lean into what your heart naturally gravitates to. I think I've spent a lot of the decade trying to suppress parts of myself or running away from them - not doing that anymore.
9. Spend time every day on that little "side project". Even if it's for five minutes. On a jam-packed MRT ride home.
10. That said, not everything you do needs to be a hustle. I do think there is something quite beautiful and self-giving to let yourself simply enjoy a hobby for no other reason than what it is. Excited to pick up some new ones in 2020!
11. On relationships: I love this quote by one of my favourite poets Khalil Gibran: “Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup."
12. Possibly my favourite thing about getting older is that it's now socially acceptable to want to be home before midnight. I'm not lame anymore, whoop.
13. Always make time for your parents. You're not the only one getting older.
14. You reap the type of relationships you sow. Make time for people who matter; check in regularly with people you love; treat people how you want to be treated.
15. Forgive people, including yourself.
16. Find time to read and write daily - even for 10 minutes. One of the things I'm pretty happy about kicking off in 2019: I've started a book club! (We're called the Lit Chicks, lol.) I'm also hoping to blog more regularly, just as a way to really connect and engage with what I'm thinking/feeling. It really is quite nice to be writing outside of my 9 to 5.
17. Be in the moment. Unplug and disconnect from devices from time to time.
18. Consume less stuff. I've been trying to cut down on unnecessarily purchasing stuff that only ends up as clutter I try to Kondo out of my life months later.
19. Kindness and humility are my favourite qualities in people.
20. And lastly, you're only human. Which means that on days when you forget to practice/remember these things (and mind you, no one's immune to those days), chin up and go easy on yourself. You're not programmed to be infallible!
So, hello there 2020!
My life isn't perfect; there are a ton of things I want to do, see, do... But I will say that I'm happy about where I'm mentally at moving into the new year and I'm the most centered I've ever been. So I'm pretty thankful for that :')